I’m NOT alone yay! April 9, 2015

9 Apr

Why More Women Are Choosing Not to Have Children

Why More Women Are Choosing Not to Have Children

More women are forgoing having children, according to U.S. Census Bureau stats. (Photo: Plume Creative/Getty Images)

More women are opting not to have children than ever before, according to new data released by the U.S Census Bureau. The data, which focused on women ages 15 to 50, show that childlessness continues to be on the rise in the U.S.

Nearly 50 percent of women ages 25 to 29 were childless in 2014. For women ages 30 to 34, 28.9 percent of them were childless in that same year — that’s up from 28.2 percent in 2012. Overall, the data found that nearly half (47.6 percent) of American women ages 15 to 44 did not have children last year, a jump from 46.5 percent back in 2012, according toTime.com.

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There are several possible reasons why birth rates are dropping, including women delaying getting married and having children as their career takes a front seat. The census data found that women ages 40 to 50 in 2014 who were in managerial or professional occupations were more likely to be childless than women of similar age in other occupations.

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Another factor may be the economy — birth rates tend to drop in response to a down economy. The Pew Research Center (PRC) found a decline in fertility that coincided with the 2008 recession. Compared to 2007, which had a record high number of births in the U.S, the fertility rate has dropped significantly from 69.6 births per thousand women ages 15 to 44 to 66.7 births per thousand women ages 15 to 44 in 2009, according to PRC.

In some cases, though, being childless is not a choice. There are couples who want children but may be unable to conceive because of age or health issues and can’t afford — or don’t want to go through —fertility treatments or adoption.

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For others, becoming a parent simply isn’t a calling. “I’ve always known I didn’t want kids,” Kathleen D. tells Yahoo Parenting. “I just never felt the desire. The main reason I don’t want them is because I really value my freedom. I always want to be able to take risks and move wherever I want in the world without having to worry about their school. If my husband and I lose everything, we only have to take care of ourselves.”

For Anne R. and her husband, not having children stemmed from a combination of never feeling ready for kids, as well as focusing on their careers and a passion for traveling at a moment’s notice. “After 11 years of marriage, I feel like I can say, we’re pretty good at being married, but I’m not sure we’d be great parents,” she tells Yahoo Parenting. “Now, I’m 35 and my husband is 37, so we kind of faced the decision, and it’s like, wow, we’re really happy and content and a lot of married couples don’t get to say that, so let’s just be okay with it and keep on doing what we’re doing.”

This is a growing trend that Ellen L. Walker, Ph.D., author of Complete Without Kids, sees in her counseling practice: “As a psychologist, I see many young women and men who are taking the decision of whether or not to become a parent as seriously as any other life choice,” Walker tells Yahoo Parenting. “Many are saying that they have other life aspirations that will take front and center in their futures. Others are very concerned about the state of the world, environmental, and world peace issues. They all realize that it’s now totally acceptable to choose a life without kids.”

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“The Curse of rejection” written by Ms. Crystal Gayle Sims January 25, 2015

26 Jan

“The curse of rejection”

What does it mean to for a person to be rejected? What does the word rejection truly mean? Where are the origins of rejections, and what are good and bad forms of rejection? I want to tackle those specific questions, elaborate on them, interject some personal experiences of rejection, and ultimately use the Bible to justify and clarify my points. I will also expound upon the curse of rejection from a relational, mental, physical perspective, the damage it cause, and how to get healing from God through His word. The noun rejection can refer to the actual act of rejecting something or to the feeling one has after being rejected. In other words, you might have feelings of rejection after experiencing rejection from others. The latin noun reicere which means “to throw back,” is the ancestor word rejection. Nobody likes to fee the pain of feeling excluded or rejected or thrown back, but the reality is, we live in a cruel world of exclusion and rejection.

But we must learn how to over come it . The word rejection became popular in 1931 when parental rejection was viewed as a motivation of bad behavior in children. The word found a medical meaning in 1943, as the physical’s body refusal of acceptance in transplants. Ultimately, spiritually the word rejection found it’s way in the Bible 68 times, mainly equating man’s rejection of Jesus Christ , His teachings, Doctrine, and Sovereignty to the origin of the feeling and sting of rejection through humanity. So to take it a step further and to deepen your understanding of this painful word, let’s explore and take a closer look at the origins of the word rejection. Where does it originate from? It originates from the Bible, you may ask yourself how so? Well, the devil actually known as Lucifer the “Bright and morning star” of Heaven before his fall, actually rejected God’s way of righteousness and order, and desired to be God himself (Isaiah 14:9-12).

He “threw back” or in other words, ejected God’s Sovereignty to be the Almighty and was not pleased his position as being head choir director of the Heavenly host. So after God had created Adam and Eve, and God had specifically given Adam the command to not eat from The tree of knowledge of good and evil, he rejected that command ( Genesis 2:15). So did Eve when she allowed the devil to deceive her through the form a snake, she also rejected the command from God( Genesis 3:1-6). They together decided to throw back , to not accept, and dismiss the command of God, from that day on rejection was born. Rejection come in many forms, this is where rejection origins came from. It was a curse from the sin that Adam and Eve committed. Medically proven it can start from the womb. If a Mother’s disposition is to abort a baby or give the baby away for adoption, that is unsubconcsiously remembered in that child and in time, when the feeling and the sting of that feeling is blossomed, it produces rejection. Rejection is a curse, but God’s acceptance there are blessings.

They may experience at home from their parents. Not ever feeling loved, or wanted. The Parent may no longer display rejection, but the child still feels rejected, or the parent may express rejection continually and the child will feel it. They then carry it into other relationships. On the first day of Kindergarden, they get all dressed up and is off to School, a new community, and new experiences where they just know that they will have a chance to prove and show that they are lovable and cool. But far from their mind they discover quickly that they are the last person to be chosen for a showcase of their new sneakers, or when they go to sit down at the lunch table to share their lunch with other fellow students, everyone leaves from the table because their sneakers are bright yellow.

These are the outward manisfestations of rejection of a young life, and if not dealt with right away, they will continue to carry it throughout school into adulthood. Never feeling loved, or wanted or not good enough for others approval or friendship. Mentally, rejections can cause four distinct psychological wounds, the severity of which depends on the situations and our emotional health at the time. Specifically, rejections elicit emotional health so sharp it affects our thinking, floods us with anger, erodes our confidence and self- esteem, and destabilizes our fundamental feelings of self- worth of our sense of belonging. Momentarily, we will experience and encounter mild rejection throughout our lives, but if a person continue to have consistent rejection, they can conjure up the conclusion that it is from them and that they are unlovable, and not wanted. They can believe the lie that they are forever excluded and is not good enough to fit or belong anywhere. This can cause severe damage of the mind and emotions, and can even cause the body to physically decline. Rejection can also determine and shape our perceptions of how we see ourselves and others. I remember one specific account of rejection in my very own life. At the time I was 19 and had just accepted Christ into my life, basically, I had became a Christian. But, there was this guy that I was seeing ( I won’t mention his name to protect his identity) I really was sure that he loved me and wanted me, to be with me. I thought that I belonged with him, I shortly discovered that he had another girlfriend, and did not really want me like I thought he did. This is the most common experienced of rejection, most people experience it from all angles and spectrums. Now the first thing that went through my mind with that guy was that I was not this or that enough. He didn’t want me because of this or that, or I didn’t belong with him. So many women have these similar mind sets based on childhood experiences with their estranged Father and vice versa, if it is not put in check, it can be damaging and debilitating. What does it mean to be rejected by a person? Simple, they are not wanted, they are not treasured, they are dismissed quickly, they are not accepted to be themselves or the real genuine them. They have to become someone else to be accepted by a Community, or even family. Mainly, they don’t believe that Jesus Christ don’t accept them either. Feelings start rushing in like low self- esteem issues, co- dependency, depression, hopelessness, and helplessness, rejection and alienation can lead to loneliness and ultimately suicide if a person don’t get it treated and allow the Lord to shower them with His eternal and perfect love and true acceptance.

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I lost my Granny this month, she was my world.

23 Dec

It has been a minute since I have visited my own site, i have been so busy with a very new and demanding job, but just recently I lost my dear Granny on the 3rd of this month, I believe it was a stroke. I am truly devastated, and so is my family. Now I understand why God didn’t let me move away from here. I have to get used to her not being here physically, but I know she is here I just can’t see her. I know she is truly with the Lord due the dreams she had told me of last month. She was a true woman of God, strong in her faith, God’s love, and always was about her family, her children and grandchildren., she was also my Bestfriend I love you Booby so much and I miss you greatly. I know I will see you again one day.

God is blessing…. October New beginnings!

6 Oct

I am so happy with all the things I am doing in my life, and what He is doing. I am still Saved, Happily single, sanctified, and filled with His precious Spirit. Little by little, it’s all coming together. Thank You Lord so much!

Zeus, 5 year old Great Dane dies

12 Sep

OTSEGO, Mich. (AP) — The Great Dane from Michigan that held the title of world’s tallest dog has died at age 5.

Owner Kevin Doorlag told the Kalamazoo Gazette that Zeus made his debut in the 2012 edition of Guinness World Records as the tallest living dog. Zeus was 44 inches tall at the shoulder and 7 feet, 4 inches on his hind legs.

Zeus weighed 165 pounds and ate a 30-pound bag of food every two weeks, the Battle Creek Enquirer reported.

Doorlag, of Otsego, said the entire family will miss Zeus.

Zeus was a local celebrity in the Kalamazoo area and frequently visited local schools and hospitals as a therapy dog. Doorlag said he will also miss seeing the joy Zeus brought to other people.

“Those are some of the things I’ll never forget about him,” Doorlag said. “He was definitely a great dog.”

Zeus died last week from old age, just two months shy of his sixth birthday, according to Doorlag

The dangers of the Spirit of Jezebel/Witchcraft! Run! Run! Run!

3 Jul

Witchcraft, Loneliness, Church and the Jezebel Spirit

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The Jezebel spirit releases witchcraft against your mind and emotions. The purpose of the witchcraft is to wear you down little by little in an effort to control your life. Witchcraft is one of the demon spirits in Jezebel’s network.

 

When you first meet Jezebel she is kind, flattering, and ministered to something inside you. She solved problems, came up with ideas and offered valuable insight. You felt that finally someone really understood you. You found a friend and companion. As time went by something happened, Jezebel changed. She turned on you with cold shoulder instead of a warm smile. Imaginations ran wild and you wondered what you did. Rejection, hurt, puzzlement, and pain surface from within. You are now ready for Phase Two of Jezebel’s control.

For a person to be overcome by the Jezebel spirit they must fulfill certain conditions. Through witchcraft the Jezebel spirit wants you to “give ground”. That means you slowly but surely give way to Jezebel’s influence.

The Jezebel spirit wants to steal your will to make decisions on your own. This is a “process” that takes time to accomplish. First, Jezebel uses seduction. Seduction most always comes through some form of flattery. Flattery is a complement or something that makes you feel good about yourself. Everyone likes a pat on the back for a job well done but it’s the motive behind Jezebel’s complement we must discern.

Jezebel’s witchcraft is looking for “something in you” to grab hold of. In the process of time Jezebel becomes someone you admire and a companion that you look to for counsel. Little by little she becomes your teacher and instructor while helping you make decisions. You see her as offering spiritual insight, counsel, wisdom, direction, and security. She may even give prophetic words of confirmation and direction. But, as already said, then one day something changes and confusion hits your mind, condemnation begins to set in, you feel insecure, tired, emotionally drained and ready to give up. You stop making decisions on your own and look to Jezebel to make decisions for you. Something is happening to you. You notice Jezebel has replaced all other authority figures in your life including friends, parents, spouse and pastor. Bit by bit you feel the strength drained out of you, everything is your fault. Jezebel wants to know everything. She calls, she doesn’t call. You text her but she doesn’t respond. Information that once fueled her to help is now used to beat you up until finally you give up and surrender your will. Jezebel’s witchcraft has finished its job. You are now Jezebel’s eunuch. Your life is not your own.

Jezebel’s eunuchs want to be controlled. Eunuchs don’t want godly counsel or wisdom they want someone to make decisions for them. This is the fruit of Jezebel’s witchcraft because eunuchs have given up their wills to the Jezebel long ago. Eunuchs just look for another controller.

Eunuchs surrender their will to Jezebel and allow her to make final decisions. As the witchcraft beats you down you slowly give ground. A Christian should surrender only to Christ not to Jezebel. Jezebel’s witchcraft releases confusion, loss of personal identity, and emotional dullness. The dullness is similar to a drunken stupor.

STAY OR LEAVE THE CHURCH

Some ask if they should stay in a church when the leadership has a Jezebel spirit. Let’s ask some practical questions. Why should someone stay? Why should someone leave? What would be the result if you left or if you left and a family member stayed? Here are some testimonies from those that struggled with the decision.

Patricia wrote that her “family left a church that had the Jezebel spirit in leadership. We confronted it but it was always swept under the rug so we left after much prayer. Since then the family has grown spiritually and is being used mightily!”

Another writes, “It depends on the circumstances. In my experience our pastors were under the influence of Jezebel and had many eunuchs. The Holy Spirit revealed truth to me. My husband was seeing things but was not able to accept it and put it all together so I had to stand in battle for two years praying for God to reveal truth to him. I could not leave because Jezebel had already tried to interfere in our marriage and if I had left who knows what would have happened to our marriage and family. So I dug in my heels, stood and fought because this demonic wicked spirit was not getting my husband and it wasn’t getting my family. I kept my kids with me on the pew out of their reach and stood in battle during every church service praying for my husband and others in the congregation. This is a short version but there are cases when you have to stand and fight because if you walk away then you leave those who do not see the truth in the hands of the wicked.”

Jamie said, “I left a church that had a spirit of control. You felt the life sucked out of you but I also knew I needed to be led by the Holy Ghost to leave. God did lead and amazing doors opened for me. I needed to be led by Holy Spirit to leave, just to know I was in the will of God and not be tormented after. David served Saul even when Saul was under the influence of an evil spirit. Having that said, Jesus taught not to tolerate the Jezebel spirit.”


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<!– <<< Modules Anywhere <<Some won’t confront the Jezebel spirit because they don’t like confrontation. That’s normal because no one does but you can’t ignore this spirit. Sometimes it takes confrontation to get free. No one should let devils control their lives. “If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed” (John 8:36). Don’t take this the wrong way but staying in a church with Jezebel leadership is a spiritual death sentence. Life is too short to put up with spiritual abuse. If you are in a church controlled by the Jezebel spirit get out now and don’t look back.

 

JEZEBEL AND THE LONELY

The Jezebel spirit will target the lonely. Helping people is a Christian trait. Reaching out to the lonely with the wrong motive is not. Every minister should point people to Christ, the author and the finisher of their faith. Jezebel creates codependent followers through emotional manipulation. Emotional manipulation is witchcraft in operation. Jezebel doesn’t point people to Jesus, she talks about Jesus. She points people to herself. Here are testimonies of lonely people that have met a Jezebel spirit.

“I met a gal during one of the worst times in my life that helped me tremendously. Over time I felt controlled and saw how she used helping me as a way to make her feel good. Her temperament at first was meek and kind. Underneath, however, she was passive aggressive.

As time went by I started to become confused, angry and frustrated from her mixed messages. I could feel her control. At one point I told her she had a religious sprit, was anorexic, and needed help. I pulled away. Even now it is difficult cutting away because she was so kind. I have a hard time saying she had this spirit but she was so calculating. Even writing this I’m feeling frustrated and angered again. I told her we could not fellowship unless she got some professional help. She has brain knowledge without spiritual freedom. I don’t think she tries to control me deliberately. She was sexually abused and hates herself. She was also raised in religion.”

Feeling sorry for people can be a trap so can loneliness. Minister to people as “unto the Lord.” Again, motive is important. Keep it pure. Point people to Jesus as “author and finisher of their faith.”

“I was lonely and Jezebel beat me down emotionally. I am a firm believer that people need people. But the Jezebel spirit wants to control and create codependency. When control entangles a relationship you have to pull away. You can tell something is wrong when you start feeling drained. Jezebel will zap the energy right out of you. I have moved to another city and feel lonelier than ever. This is a trap for me because I need a friend.”

The witchcraft control from the Jezebel spirit lingers. Use your spiritual authority to use the Name of Jesus and break the influence. Jezebel has several faces. When she manifest you need to leave the relationship.

“When I was at a low point in my life and feeling lonely that’s when Jezebel entered my life. At first she seemed like the perfect friend and an answer to prayer. As time went by she slowly changed and started putting me down and being cold with me. She was warm one day and cold and witchy the next. She was kind of like Jekyll and Hyde. I don’t think she deliberately set out to hurt me. I just think it was the spirit controlling her and I know she had issues such as being sexually and possibly emotionally and physically abused as a child. I still pray for her that she finds freedom.”

If you are the sort of person who does not make friends easily and struggles with rejection you are vulnerable to people who carry the Jezebel spirit. Stay away from this “witchy” spirit.

“I have had the same experience even to the point where this person wanted control of my finances and would abuse me and my children. It took me years to recover from the hurt and pain of that situation. I had to ask the Lord to help me forgive this person for what it did to me and my family. The list goes on and on.”

It’s clear that the Jezebel spirit releases witchcraft against your mind and emotions. Don’t give into this spirits manipulation. Stay away from Jezebel’s network.

Your partner,

Jonas Clark
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