I’ll never have sex again swears young, attractive asexual Lisa Smith

Woman swears off nookie aged just 29

Lisa Smith declared on This Morning she will never have sex again

Asexual … Lisa Smith
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By ANGHARAD LLEWELLYN
Published: 01st February 2013

A YOUNG woman has sworn off sex for GOOD at the age of 29 — declaring that she HATES getting under the sheets and that it repulses her.

Lisa Smith, who has had three boyfriends, appeared on This Morning earlier today to discuss her feelings with show hosts Ruth Langsford and Eamonn Holmes.

Talking about when she first started to realise she was turned off by nookie, Lisa explained: “It was mainly when we got to secondary school and everybody was pairing up.

“They were coming back and saying ‘I’ve just done it with my boyfriend’.

“Also, sex education and all of that was coming into the fore — I just didn’t get what the appeal was.

“It didn’t seem like it was something that I would ever do. I was like ‘Sorry, that happens? Why would I want to do that?’

Lisa Smith is happy not to have sex

All smiles … Lisa Smith is happy not to have sex
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Asexual Lisa revealed that she would like to get married and settle down and — in her own words — be “normal”, but she just doesn’t want to have sex.

She has previously confirmed that there is nothing physically wrong with her, is not afflicted by guilt, her parents have a normal attitude to romance and she does not have any hidden homosexual feelings.

Recalling losing her virginity, Lisa continued: “It was something I saw as almost a coming-of-age thing, you do it and it’s done and everything is fine after that.

“Everybody says that your first time is going to be awful, so you want to get it out of the way and then move onto it being great. It’s the natural progression of a relationship.”

But the blonde, who has previously sought help from a psychosexual therapist, never found pleasure in making love with any of her partners.

She said: “I was in a relationship with someone who was wonderful but I saw it as a chore, as something I had to get out of the way.

Lisa Smith, in red, with Rith Langsford, Eamonn Holmes and Emma Kenny

Telling her story … Lisa Smith, in red, with Rith Langsford, Eamonn Holmes and Emma Kenny
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“Whenever I met up with him I didn’t want to be doing it, it was a case of I want to be with him, this is something I have to do to be with him.

“All of my partners were patient men, willing to do anything to make me happy, I was never pressured, I never felt I had to do anything that I didn’t want to do. We literally tried everything.”

Inquisitive Ruth asked: “When you did do it, was it literally that you felt nothing? I could take it or leave it or are you repulsed by it, or does it just do nothing for you, why would I keep doing this?”

Lisa said: “Both. I don’t want to be doing it so, before I even start it’s in my head that I don’t want to be doing this so that makes it worse instantly. It doesn’t do anything for me, I don’t feel the need.”

Psychologist Emma Kenny said: “Asexuality affects about one per cent of the population so there are many other people who have this issue.

“It’s more an orientation, so a lot of people who are asexual get very frustrated at the definitions that you haven’t met the right man or you just haven’t done it right yet.

“Another classic stereotype is you like women. Actually, it’s more of an orientation so the same as if you were heterosexual or homosexual, you’re asexual.”

Lisa added: “Within asexuality there is homosexuality and the varying groups, it’s more of a wider group but yes, I agree with that.”

Emma Kenny

On hand for advice … psychologist Emma Kenny
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Emma said: “I think what is really important is to differentiate between somebody who goes off sex or suddenly realises they’ve got a huge aversion to it — which might be more psychological. If you suffer from that kind of scenario you should seek help from your GP and get referred to psycho-sexual counselling.

“However, if you’ve actually gone through all the processes — and I know that Lisa has, and have come to terms with that fact that it’s not that she doesn’t want a relationship, it’s that she doesn’t want to have sex.”

Eamonn Holmes probed Lisa on how likely she felt it would be to meet a loving partner — who was willing to forgo sex.

Lisa told him: “I’m an asexual vegan who doesn’t want kids, I’m thinking crazy cat lady.

“One per cent of people are asexual, half of those are women, some are gay… it’s such a tiny group.”

“I am looking for someone. I still want to get married, I want a house, I want to do all of that, I just don’t want to have sex with them.”

Ruth probed whether Lisa would ever be willing to compromise — lie back and think of England to please her man.

But Lisa responded: “I couldn’t say until it happened, if I fell deeply in love I would have to tell them from the beginning that I don’t like sex and I don’t see how it would be enjoyable for them if they knew I hated it.

“I’d feel like I was compromising myself and end up detesting them for making me do something I don’t want to do.”

For support with asexuality visit Aven’s website


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