Marital Manipulation and Shame
Women often resort to shaming their husbands when they feel they are not getting enough love and attention from them. They do it by attacking their men in public and dropping hints about inadequacies such as financial strength, ability to repair things around the home and his performance in bed.
Manipulation and Flirtation in Marriage
Flirting comes easily to some women and they may use it to express their displeasure with their men. They purposefully flirt with other men, trying to attract their attention. Unfortunately, this type of behavior is often precursor to an affair.
Withholding Sex and Love is a Form of Manipulation
Withholding love encompasses withholding sex, friendship and communication. In effect, women give their husbands the cold shoulder. James Walker says women commonly use this form of manipulation when their parents used it to discipline them as children.
When their husband does something that displeases them, they resort to manipulation to punish him. Even if he figures out what he has done wrong and apologizes, she will hold him at arm’s length for several days. The result is a husband who walks on eggshells, afraid of offending his wife and suffering the consequences.
Manipulation and Emotion
Men are moved by emotion and some women use this to their advantage. If they are losing an argument or want to do something their husband is not happy about, they turn on the tears. Others act like martyrs to try and gain pity and force attention from their husbands. These behavior patterns are damaging to a marriage and will ultimately drive their husbands further from them.
Most women manipulate to try and change something in their husbands. Due to upbringing and incorrect models, they imitate what they have seen other women do. The first step in changing this destructive behavior is learning to recognize it. This can be humbling and difficult but a wise woman will work on changing her responses and as her husband sees the changes, their marriage will begin to grow and strengthen. This is dangerous people of God, and this wicked and deceitful spirit is not just for the married, but across the border in relationships- friendship,children with parents and parents with children, it can also be seen in Church. Where ever it is and whomever it’s with it’s wicked and wrong, and God will judge:What does the bible say about manipulation? Because there are many forms of it…
True fulfilling relationships are ALWAYS built on mutual trust and respect. If you manipulate someone, you are disrespecting them, and will destroy their trust in you as soon as they find out. You might be able to get what you want in the short term by using manipulation and deceit, but in the long term you will always be found out.
2 Timothy 3:1-5 ESV But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people.
Galatians 2:4 ESV Yet because of false brothers secretly brought in—who slipped in to spy out our freedom that we have in Christ Jesus, so that they might bring us into slavery—
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3 John 1:9-10 ESV I have written something to the church, but Diotrephes, who likes to put himself first, does not acknowledge our authority. So if I come, I will bring up what he is doing, talking wicked nonsense against us. And not content with that, he refuses to welcome the brothers, and also stops those who want to and puts them out of the church.
Acts 8:19-20 Saying, “Give me this power also, so that anyone on whom I lay my hands may receive the Holy Spirit.” But Peter said to him, “May your silver perish with you, because you thought you could obtain the gift of God with money!
People of God when you see this spirit operating pray and run from that person and let God deal with them and He is able to deliver them but they must first recognize and admit that they are manipulative and deceitful and God is not pleased!