What Friendship is to me…….

Friendship can be defined as anything these days, I would like to take the opporrtunity and set it straight regarding this very sensitive area for me and truly define what friendship is to me. With so much darkness, sin, deception,lies, and disloyalty in the world, I would say that it is getting harder and harder to find a true friend This is my definition of a friend: A person(s) that have a strong connection within their spirit, or bond of pure intimacy. Someone who have your back at all times, someone who has these characteristics, respect,loyalty, good communication, most of all the love of God in their hearts. Can love you enough to tell you the truth about yourself, to still love and put up with your drama, to not judge you, who can share,trials,pain,triumph, all at once and can still be there for you exclusively and keeping it all confidential, we can’t ever leave that out. Now friendship can also be universal, I never want my readers to be confused  or misinterpret terminology of words wrong, so let me clarify quickly and yes I went there because I can! I used a word that is very intimate word, “intimacy” are friends intimate? You bet, friends can be so broad (spouses, family, outsiders can be considered friends). When two people get involved with each others life, that right there by itself is intimate enough, you may discover things about your friend that you might not like or want to even know, but the choice is on you will you leave them hanging or will you continue to stay by their side? Remember nobody is perfect, including you and I. Ask yourself, what kind of friend am I? You share things with your friend that nobody else might know- if that is not intimacy then  maybe I have the wrong word. I can tell you what the problem is, I mentioned it earlier partially. The world have a twisted and sick view on what friendship is. I remember back in the day when girls could hold hands and innocently kiss on the cheeks but now you have to strongly defend your self because it just don’t look the same to some “ignorant people” I’d like to call them. But yes friends can be intimate with each other even if they are the same sex, NOT in a Sexual way at all!  That is not what I am eluding to, it would just need to be pure and Godly.  Well what does God the creator say about friendship? Or does He care? The answer  is yes He does care. God cares so much that He created Man for friendship/relationship(those two words can also be interchangeably)with Him and with each other. God called Abraham His friend (‘Abraham believed God, and it was accounted to him for righteousness.’ And he was called the friend of God.” (James 2:23). Jesus had friends (   Now as they went on their way, he entered a certain village, where a woman named Martha welcomed him into her home. She had a sister named Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet and listened to what he was saying. But Martha was distracted by her many tasks; so she came to him and asked, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to do all the work by myself? Tell her then to help me.” But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and distracted by many things; there is need of only one thing. Mary has chosen the better part, which will not be taken away from her” (Luke 10:38-42).  Mary and Martha are the most familiar set of sisters in the Bible. Both Luke and John describe them as friends of Jesus. Luke’s story, though only four verses long, has been a complex source of inspiration, interpretation, and debate for centuries. John’s story, which says the sisters had a brother named Lazarus, spans seventy verses. Though some earlier interpreters blended the person of Mary of Bethany with Mary Magdalene and the sinful woman of Luke 7:36-50, current scholars believe she was a different person.Jesus was so moved by the death of his friend Lazarus, that the scripture says that he wept.(John 11:36)There are 20 scriptures in the Bible about friendship, that screams volumes to me that God is concerned about us having friends and being friends to others. And who can ever forget Jonathan And David? My Godly example of what I was implying earlier in this blog. Jonathan was a son of a king, and rightfully had entitlement to the throne after the demise of his Father King Saul. But Jonathan’s friend, David was armor bearer to Jonathan’s Father and because of the hate and jealousy that King Saul had for David, it forced Jonathan to make a very big decision in his time and day but it said so much about the heart and character that Jonathan displayed. Jonathan did not choose his unrighteous Father side and became enemies with David or even a frenemy we would call it now, but instead Jonathan chose David. What they had according to the Bible (1st Samuel 18: 1-5) was a unbreakable righteous bond from the soul that’s how deep it was. The loyalty and pure love that they had for each other was undeniably from God. This is a perfect example of friendship on how it should look, a true friend is never jealous of your successes but instead rejoices with them and cries with them. Every emotion is shared in a friendship when it comes to trial and life. I won’t tell the complete story of Jonathan and David, but I will say this, in the end, David was still loyal to Jonathan even after his death, so loyal that now King David took in Jonathan’s crippled son and deemed him as royalty right along with his very own children,now that’s a friend, tell me how many of us would that?  my point is this, sometimes  we may have already found a person or think that we have, my suggestion is this, define it and weigh it out by the Word of God. Because God wants us happy even in this area. Here are ten tips or signs that you have a good friend and ten bad signs that you have the wrong friend. Ultimately we know that Jesus is the ultimate friend because he sticks closer then a brother!Proverbs 18:24 (King James Bible)


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